My very first Val's day that i remember having an expectation for was in '99... i was expecting a card, i mean it was simple back then because i was still very young; it was all baby love and nothing more... but i got dumped that day!! My then boyfriend, dumped me right after our extra lesson class... for all my naijans y'all remember those lessons where we prepared for WAEC huh? and it was a mixture of students from all over town, well he attended a different school and when i met him i was all gaga cuz i love tall guys and brotha is tall ... anyhow sha, he dumped me for my friend from another school as well!
I will tell you, that was a while ago but knowing how many Val's days have come and gone since then, that was the most memorable and not because i got dumped but because that was all the action i got from a Feb 14 ever.... Down memory lane we go....
In 2000, i was still hurting from the year before so i was single and studying for my WAEC so i was not interested at all in anything but my books... you can say i was an iwe!
In 2001, i moved to Ib from Kano so i had not found any guy i liked so again i was alone for Feb 14.
In 2002, i had just moved to Cali and was just getting to know everyone and was again single.
Let's just say in 2003, i was still scoping the market or shall i be politically correct and say the market was still scoping me!
Yippie, in 2004 i had a beau and he spoke french which i heard was the language of love, so, for Val's day i was like yeah this is my year!!! Well my expectations were too high cuz we had only been dating for 2 months.... Well, i got a card and a rose but dang it i wanted more for my first real Val's day and that triggered a chain reaction in the relationship that ultimately led to its end.
In 2005, i was single for Val's day, and maybe i deserved it for how i handled the previous year , well, i don't think cupid's style is revenge.
In 2006, my man was not around for Val's day, darn navy for sending him on deployment, but i did get a bouquet of roses.... Well with your man gone for almost 7 months, flowers did not do the trick, i was pretty much alone again and i hated it.
This year, well you guessed it, i am single but i have no expectations for Val's day anymore.... Someone said to me yesterday, if you really care about someone, you should make them feel special all year round and it should not matter that the whole world has set one day aside to show love... i gather your gist and in my case, this year i wanna spend it on me, i am gonna have a good day of self loving.... No you freaks, i will not be pleasuring myself.
I just wanna say that it's all right to be single on Val's day... my sis thinks it's the worst thing that can happen to me. If you are not single and your expectations are not met, then look inside you, cuz maybe you are expecting validation that will never come from roses, dinner and a card or whatever else your fantasy is.
Appreciate who you have in your life ladies, if your man doesn't beat you, yell at you, cheat or put you down; if he treats you right and is all you want him to be, and you say you're in love, please treat him right, there are few good guys left and i go appreciate if i find good one when i ready to settle down. If you don't want him just as he is, then get out of the relationship and leave him unscathed.
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I gisted about my most memorable val day on my blog. I guess I can't forget that val in a hurry.
Well better luck next year.
@ ubong da: thanks, i hope to change my train wreck track record for better!
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