Ok... i lay down to rest for a few minutes and then got up to start dinner! Had rice and veggies for dinner! Still felt ill but i was grateful for the energy the food brought me! Watched the devil wears prada for the uptenth time and just relaxed and psyched myself out of my gloom mood!
Friday morning, we ended up not leaving as early as we planned to because we just did not want to get up from bed. Finally, we showered and got ready and hit the road for Montreal, Canada. The drive was so much fun, i just was amazed at the greenery on the east coast. I was loving the east no doubt. We got to Canada and boy was i in a good mood to be there! First off all, i love Canada and i admire that country but does every flipping thing in a border town have to be so darn confusing? Oui, oui, i love french and that's about all i know but we got lost cause the road signs were in french and we did not understand the language too well!
I called our hotel... a very lovely and modern hotel i might add, to ask for directions! The nerve of this guy, he was so rude, my friend was like, it is because he is french... i mean i was a lost tourist here! Here is an excerpt of our conversation....
Me: Hi, we are trying to get your hotel and i think we are lost.
Front desk desk: silence
Me: Is is possible you can tell us how to get to your hotel?
Front desk guy: Well you could start by telling me where you are...
Haba... I do customer service and PR and you do not answer the phone like something is stuck up your ass and you nose is turned down at me!
Anyhow sha... we did not let any of that bother us... we eventually got to the hotel finally and got settled in... by this time we were starving seriously and wanted to eat! So we head to their restaurant and the people in there were much more friendly!
Que fancy! huh... salmon and something with pork that tasted fabulous and a salad that looked like something that was gotten from my backyard! For desert some creme brulee! Oh la la!
We hit the town to check it out before the carifiesta on Saturday! I took the train! hehehe... See us Californians are not used to public transport and so anytime i ride the train i am excited! Anyway we go downtown Montreal and we land smack dab in to the 07 International Jazz Festival! I was like wow, who knew... different shows and acts were all over the place! The one that resonated with me was an up and coming singer Ryan Shaw! He has a new album out: This is Ryan Shaw! I just love his voice and i swear listening to him live gave me shivers! My new favorite song is " I am your Man" Uhmm hmmmn i love that song... I can listen to it over and over and over... yeah.. we bought his cd!
We hung out downtown and eventually went back to our hotel , not before we got some ice cream and some fruits from the store! Ok very funny thing happened in the store... See we got our stuff and went through the self checkout lane! Well the lane instructions were in french! lol We scanned everything but then we could not figure out how to pay with cash and we fiddled and after messing around with it for a while, the guy behind us came over with an irritated look and pressed the correct button! I looked at him and in my frenchiest accent.. i was like 'merci' lol!
Next Morning which was saturday and happened to be my dad's 60th birthday party in naija! I really wanted to be there but i was just there in Jan and i could not make it! So the plan was for me to be there virtuoso! I had my brother hook up my dad's laptop and had him turn on the webcam and so i was sitting on the bed and watching the goings on in the house! When people came by, i said hello and then i had planned for my them to kind of have a fashion show for me once they all got dressed but i was only able to see mom and dad because as usual my sisters took forever to get ready and they ended up have to run downstairs for the party! I will get pictures soon!
After getting ready for the carifiesta, we head out and boy was i amazed at the show! The music was great and the atmoshpere was just one of great fun! Some people have some clips on youtube! I have never walked for so long or had so much fun! By the time we left downtown, it was almost 9 pm! It was a long day and as we got to the hotel, i had planned to go to the jacuzzi but upon getting up to our room, i was too tired and i fashied! Goodthing because i had thot i had my flat iron with me and when i got home it was there... so i am glad i did not go for the dip because my hair would have been hard to manage!
Drove back to Philly on Sunday, the weather was bad and we made it just in time for my flight! I had a lot of fun! I mean... all the reasons i had to be nervous for were non existent! Yours truly got a little freaky sunday morning but fortunately it did not get too far! Heheehe Wut now? I can see you smiling! Lol... Holla !
Monday, July 16, 2007
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Update!
It has been two long and eventful months! It has been a while since i have even looked at the blogs and made my rounds. I just did not feel the urge to write. Back in May i was preparing for my finals and after they were over, i just dumped my laptop somewhere and forgot about it!
But now sitting here doing nothing i feel the need to just write away! Alot has happened since i was on blogger... lemme see ... hmmn.. here we go!
I got a new job... a new chill job... i used to always say that work schedule did not matter to me but now working a M-F 6am -3pm schedule, i can honestly say that i am living the life. I mean after work on Friday i am just free to do whatever and i am loving it!
My older sister is getting married... phew! I am just hoping that all goes well!
Oh yeah, more exciting i went on a trip to the East Coast. This trip was different i tell you. And it was different for a lot of reasons!
I was going to be there for a while and i was going to be staying with a Man. Yes, a grown ass man! Lol! My friend in NJ kept sayin that to me.. over and over... lol
When we started planning this trip, i was a little bit apprehensive and a little bit nervous. Yes, i admit. I mean who knows what to expect and all!
Ok lemme reverse and start from the beginning! My friend and I (We met in 05 briefly and had not seen each other since then) had been planning on going on a trip, just the two of us for a while. I was excited... i was gonna see him again. But then i thought to myself, we have great conversations on the phone and online? What if i get there and we have nothing to talk about? I wondered if we could actually spend 5 days together and be cool the whole time!
Anyway, the trip almost did not happen because we could not get a place to go that was reasonablely priced... you know it being summer and all.
Finally, we decided to go to Montreal, Canada. And so we planned towards that!
I left here and got to Philly in the Morning on the 4th of July... we just chilled and watched TV till around 3. Decided to go to a movie and we got up and got ready... made it for the early evening showing of Oceans 13... Loved that movie! Wanted to go the fireworks downtown but the weather did not permit and so we ended staying home and watching tv... till we fell asleep.
Thursday... He had a meeting, so I got the rental and drove to Jersey City, NJ to see my friend and his wife... It was a lovely drive, i was so excited and happy all around.... nice scenery...
Upon getting to my friend's house, we had yam and eggs for breakfast. I love watching tennis and so as Wimbledon was on i made sure i was watching and supporting my favs... go Venus!
As we sat watching tv that thursday morning .... i felt a cramp coming on and i swear within 20 minutes.... i had gone from an energy level of 10 to a 1. It was like i was another person... I lost all energy and loooked sick as hell! We ransacked my friends' house for some pain killers but ended up going to the store to get some midol. He had wanted to show me around the city and took me to where i could see the statue of liberty but that was all i could take. I just wanted to curl on the floor and pass out for real!
We went back to his house and i lay on their couch and in an instant i was gone. The next thing i know is that it was 3 pm and i decided to head back home to Philly. Drove home and once i got there.. lay down again for a few minutes to rest....
I will be back to finish my gist.... this is not a tactic oo! lol...
But now sitting here doing nothing i feel the need to just write away! Alot has happened since i was on blogger... lemme see ... hmmn.. here we go!
I got a new job... a new chill job... i used to always say that work schedule did not matter to me but now working a M-F 6am -3pm schedule, i can honestly say that i am living the life. I mean after work on Friday i am just free to do whatever and i am loving it!
My older sister is getting married... phew! I am just hoping that all goes well!
Oh yeah, more exciting i went on a trip to the East Coast. This trip was different i tell you. And it was different for a lot of reasons!
I was going to be there for a while and i was going to be staying with a Man. Yes, a grown ass man! Lol! My friend in NJ kept sayin that to me.. over and over... lol
When we started planning this trip, i was a little bit apprehensive and a little bit nervous. Yes, i admit. I mean who knows what to expect and all!
Ok lemme reverse and start from the beginning! My friend and I (We met in 05 briefly and had not seen each other since then) had been planning on going on a trip, just the two of us for a while. I was excited... i was gonna see him again. But then i thought to myself, we have great conversations on the phone and online? What if i get there and we have nothing to talk about? I wondered if we could actually spend 5 days together and be cool the whole time!
Anyway, the trip almost did not happen because we could not get a place to go that was reasonablely priced... you know it being summer and all.
Finally, we decided to go to Montreal, Canada. And so we planned towards that!
I left here and got to Philly in the Morning on the 4th of July... we just chilled and watched TV till around 3. Decided to go to a movie and we got up and got ready... made it for the early evening showing of Oceans 13... Loved that movie! Wanted to go the fireworks downtown but the weather did not permit and so we ended staying home and watching tv... till we fell asleep.
Thursday... He had a meeting, so I got the rental and drove to Jersey City, NJ to see my friend and his wife... It was a lovely drive, i was so excited and happy all around.... nice scenery...
Upon getting to my friend's house, we had yam and eggs for breakfast. I love watching tennis and so as Wimbledon was on i made sure i was watching and supporting my favs... go Venus!
As we sat watching tv that thursday morning .... i felt a cramp coming on and i swear within 20 minutes.... i had gone from an energy level of 10 to a 1. It was like i was another person... I lost all energy and loooked sick as hell! We ransacked my friends' house for some pain killers but ended up going to the store to get some midol. He had wanted to show me around the city and took me to where i could see the statue of liberty but that was all i could take. I just wanted to curl on the floor and pass out for real!
We went back to his house and i lay on their couch and in an instant i was gone. The next thing i know is that it was 3 pm and i decided to head back home to Philly. Drove home and once i got there.. lay down again for a few minutes to rest....
I will be back to finish my gist.... this is not a tactic oo! lol...
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
Happy new Month!
***I thank God for this new day... this new month ...
I was up at exactly midnight and i acknowledged the new month! I don't why that made me happy but it did ooo!
***I lost my voice and doing what i do, it is kinda hard to do that without a voice, so i went to the doctor and i was placed on 72 hours voice rest.
Everyone keeps asking me, " How did you loose your voice?" And that baffles me ooooo....
***Please people oo, is there something that causes laryngitis? Cus me i am unaware!
No gist dey from this side oo...
Just trying to get my voice back cuz you know its my money maker!!
I was up at exactly midnight and i acknowledged the new month! I don't why that made me happy but it did ooo!
***I lost my voice and doing what i do, it is kinda hard to do that without a voice, so i went to the doctor and i was placed on 72 hours voice rest.
Everyone keeps asking me, " How did you loose your voice?" And that baffles me ooooo....
***Please people oo, is there something that causes laryngitis? Cus me i am unaware!
No gist dey from this side oo...
Just trying to get my voice back cuz you know its my money maker!!
Monday, April 30, 2007
Mo soge daran!!
That just means that "I am in pain just for fashion". I got my hair "did" last thursday and boy did i get a response! I am not one to go gaga and stress myself for hair but i was convinced by my friend that the hair would look good on me!So i obliged and decided to get this hair that i just thot was definitely not me! I was gonna go out on a limb!
***I did and ohmagosh, everyone was like wow you look so good, your hair is lovely blah, blah,blah! Because it was so unlike me, i was unsure how to sleep that night!
I put my hairnet on and went to bed, struggled to find a comfortable position all night and you guessed it, i woke up in the morning and could not turn my head to the right! Lol!
You know, it is so funny when you get a stiff neck, you realize that all of a sudden, people want you to turn around more often.... Or maybe because it hurt everytime i had to turn...
As if that did not teach me a lesson, on Saturday, as i was leaving for work... i looked in my closet and i saw these shoes that i bought a while back but had not worn yet! So i decided to put them on! They felt a little tight but they looked cute on me , so i wore them to work... bit mistake... I got to work and was there for about 2 hours and i had to leave my desk and lo and behold, my legs start cramping... it is funny now but then i was whimpering in pain because, you know, no one held me at ransom to put them shoes on! I tried to hide my limping but it was obvious and my supe, a female was like girl take them shoes off and you can wear slippers instead!
Whew, i was glad and i ran to my truck to get slippers but i had taken off my shoes the other before and did not switch back the slippers! I was so angry and pissed cuz now i was really gonna pay for my sillyness!
I limped all night and when i could i walked barefoot! lol But darn... i have learnt my lesson!
Thursday, April 26, 2007
Thot this was fun to do!
Do you see wut i see.... heheehee!Naija bags are now in Paris.... Ghana must go bags by Luis Vuitton!
**** thot this would be fun for you to see****
Meme: One Word Responses
1. Yourself: fun
2. Your partner: single
3. Your hair: ponytail
4. Your mother: inspiration
5. Your father: loving
6. Your favourite item: cell
7. Your dream last night: none
8. Your favourite drink: water
9. Your dream car: Landrover
10. The room you are in: cold
11. Your ex: bye
12. Your fear: failure
13. What you want to be in 10 years: happy
14. Who you hung out with last night: sister
15. What you're not: trusting
16. Muffins: fattening
17: One of your wish list items: vuitton
18: Time: gooiinng
19. The last thing you did: typed
20. What you are wearing: capri
21. Your favourite weather: sunny
22. Your favourite book: Bible
23. The last thing you ate: bread
24. Your life: busy
25. Your mood: hopeful
26. Your best friend: UA
27. What you're thinking about right now: love
28. Your car: guzzler
29. What you are doing at the moment: smiling
30. Your summer: fun
31. Your relationship status: unsure
32. What is on your TV: bet
33. What is the weather like: coldish
It gives you you the opportunity to reflect... take some time to do so!
1. Yourself: fun
2. Your partner: single
3. Your hair: ponytail
4. Your mother: inspiration
5. Your father: loving
6. Your favourite item: cell
7. Your dream last night: none
8. Your favourite drink: water
9. Your dream car: Landrover
10. The room you are in: cold
11. Your ex: bye
12. Your fear: failure
13. What you want to be in 10 years: happy
14. Who you hung out with last night: sister
15. What you're not: trusting
16. Muffins: fattening
17: One of your wish list items: vuitton
18: Time: gooiinng
19. The last thing you did: typed
20. What you are wearing: capri
21. Your favourite weather: sunny
22. Your favourite book: Bible
23. The last thing you ate: bread
24. Your life: busy
25. Your mood: hopeful
26. Your best friend: UA
27. What you're thinking about right now: love
28. Your car: guzzler
29. What you are doing at the moment: smiling
30. Your summer: fun
31. Your relationship status: unsure
32. What is on your TV: bet
33. What is the weather like: coldish
It gives you you the opportunity to reflect... take some time to do so!
I just don't know!
As girls, we know when there is connection between us and a guy! At least i used to know what was up with a guy before he asked me out!
But lately my signal has been down and out... and i just don't know why!
When my last relationship ended, it seems like there were so many people who had been waiting for that to fall out cus they just kept coming at me and at that time i was like a slammed shut iron door.
It did not matter how fine a brotha was, i just did not want to know who the hell he was, i was not giving an inch to anyone!
I will admit that after a while, the brothas just left me alone and i was cool with that! I mean, i needed to get to know myself again and find out what was important to me and make myself the priority!
I had not written in a while before my last post when i just had to open up because i was taking a break, to tell you the truth, i was not sure if i should or could open up and write about these deep thoughts inside me!
I miss the care and attention from one's love! I don't mind being single and not attached but i miss not having someone that i can call my very own! I like to think of myself as independent, because frankly i don't like being inconvinienced or an inconvineice to others!
I realise that my schedule is very tight (this was done i think on purpose) and that i cannot spend the time to establsh a relationship with anyone right now, but as i write here i wonder why i can't have it all???
It is very funny that a lot of people think of me as wife material and nah, i am not ready to get married yet but i just want to not be lonely!
All of my friends are married or in a relationship and they are always trying to hook me up with someone or the other as per wife material now.. lol!
I went out to lunch the other day with a friend whose husband is deployed and another friend and it brought back old memories and made me realise, i was becoming a spinster! All i need is a cat! lol - it has been awhile!
As we sat there eating, i tried to think of the last time i did something like this and it was amazing as i came to the conclusion that instead of making myself the priority, i had been hiding behind psuedo-relationships!
See i have not allowed myself to feel anything for anyone or maybe i have been holding it back! I just don't know!
Most of the guys in my life right now are very good friends and my girls say there is something more but i think i have lost the ability to tell this kind of thing and i just don't know!
I have tried to disect every aspect of the relationships i have with these guys and i cannot seem to tell if there is anything more! I mean i like them, they are my freinds... but i cannot seem to tell if anyone of them is in deep-like with me!
I just don't want another frog... I am willing to wait for my prince and i am hoping that once he finds me, he will meet my criteria, because i now have one! I just won't date anyone anymore for dating sake! I just won't do it!
Anyone got any idea how i can get my satellite working again? I am all ears!
But lately my signal has been down and out... and i just don't know why!
When my last relationship ended, it seems like there were so many people who had been waiting for that to fall out cus they just kept coming at me and at that time i was like a slammed shut iron door.
It did not matter how fine a brotha was, i just did not want to know who the hell he was, i was not giving an inch to anyone!
I will admit that after a while, the brothas just left me alone and i was cool with that! I mean, i needed to get to know myself again and find out what was important to me and make myself the priority!
I had not written in a while before my last post when i just had to open up because i was taking a break, to tell you the truth, i was not sure if i should or could open up and write about these deep thoughts inside me!
I miss the care and attention from one's love! I don't mind being single and not attached but i miss not having someone that i can call my very own! I like to think of myself as independent, because frankly i don't like being inconvinienced or an inconvineice to others!
I realise that my schedule is very tight (this was done i think on purpose) and that i cannot spend the time to establsh a relationship with anyone right now, but as i write here i wonder why i can't have it all???
It is very funny that a lot of people think of me as wife material and nah, i am not ready to get married yet but i just want to not be lonely!
All of my friends are married or in a relationship and they are always trying to hook me up with someone or the other as per wife material now.. lol!
I went out to lunch the other day with a friend whose husband is deployed and another friend and it brought back old memories and made me realise, i was becoming a spinster! All i need is a cat! lol - it has been awhile!
As we sat there eating, i tried to think of the last time i did something like this and it was amazing as i came to the conclusion that instead of making myself the priority, i had been hiding behind psuedo-relationships!
See i have not allowed myself to feel anything for anyone or maybe i have been holding it back! I just don't know!
Most of the guys in my life right now are very good friends and my girls say there is something more but i think i have lost the ability to tell this kind of thing and i just don't know!
I have tried to disect every aspect of the relationships i have with these guys and i cannot seem to tell if there is anything more! I mean i like them, they are my freinds... but i cannot seem to tell if anyone of them is in deep-like with me!
I just don't want another frog... I am willing to wait for my prince and i am hoping that once he finds me, he will meet my criteria, because i now have one! I just won't date anyone anymore for dating sake! I just won't do it!
Anyone got any idea how i can get my satellite working again? I am all ears!
Thursday, April 19, 2007
The Land of the free?
Where do i begin to start from? I had been taking a break for a hot minute but with the emotions i feel lately i knew i had to write before i exploded!
*** Ahhhh***
I am so angry right now and i just don't know where to direct that anger!
As a college student, i have a right to expect that i am protected, safe and that some crazy idiot won't come and shoot at me in my class! That is MY RIGHT!!!!
Now you have the right to purchase a gun and carry a concealed weapon if you so choose to do so in some states! That is YOUR RIGHT!!!
If your right is now posing a danger to me and my safety, then... we have a problem!
No one is admitting anything or taking responsibility for this tragedy! I mean all i am bombarded by is this crazy idiot's disgusting face every freaking where!! I refuse to name him because in case someone was not aware... that was the idiot's plan in the first place.
The media oh you gotta love them, they have all these programs about going inside the mind of a killer and a whole lotta BS... Why do we need to understand his idiotic mind... Obviously by his actions, we get that he is CRAZY!
**** Ahhhhh****
If you want to give people publicity, please recognize the innocent ones who were fatally shot to death on that terrible day! College professors, Seniors in college, freshman just starting out their college life! I mean people that mattered and made a difference in someone else's life! There was a triple major senior who lost his life, find something to write about him!!!!!
To the NRA, i am glad you guys can see what your RIGHTS have cost innocent folk!
I don't feel free, safe or protected to know that i could be in class and get shot!
Something needs to be done about this!!!! And NOW!!
***I just needed to vent *** Hopefully i can't write something eloquent later!
To all those who have been affected by this tragedy directly, I send you my Prayers and Love, May the Lord comfort you! Amen!
*** Ahhhh***
I am so angry right now and i just don't know where to direct that anger!
As a college student, i have a right to expect that i am protected, safe and that some crazy idiot won't come and shoot at me in my class! That is MY RIGHT!!!!
Now you have the right to purchase a gun and carry a concealed weapon if you so choose to do so in some states! That is YOUR RIGHT!!!
If your right is now posing a danger to me and my safety, then... we have a problem!
No one is admitting anything or taking responsibility for this tragedy! I mean all i am bombarded by is this crazy idiot's disgusting face every freaking where!! I refuse to name him because in case someone was not aware... that was the idiot's plan in the first place.
The media oh you gotta love them, they have all these programs about going inside the mind of a killer and a whole lotta BS... Why do we need to understand his idiotic mind... Obviously by his actions, we get that he is CRAZY!
**** Ahhhhh****
If you want to give people publicity, please recognize the innocent ones who were fatally shot to death on that terrible day! College professors, Seniors in college, freshman just starting out their college life! I mean people that mattered and made a difference in someone else's life! There was a triple major senior who lost his life, find something to write about him!!!!!
To the NRA, i am glad you guys can see what your RIGHTS have cost innocent folk!
I don't feel free, safe or protected to know that i could be in class and get shot!
Something needs to be done about this!!!! And NOW!!
***I just needed to vent *** Hopefully i can't write something eloquent later!
To all those who have been affected by this tragedy directly, I send you my Prayers and Love, May the Lord comfort you! Amen!
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Friends and relationships!
Happy new month to you blogville folk! I had not seen a friend of mine for almost 5 months... not due to any rifts or anything... we just never could fix up a time... i had a new school schedule, i was in naija, i changed my work schedule, she had a baby and moved... the reasons are endless.
We did keep in touch by text and phone though! I decided on my way from school yesterday to stop over and see her at her job before i went home and i am glad i did!
She was surprised to see me and happy at the same time... i could tell something was wrong so i asked her again how are you doing? She looks at me and said not so good! I was like what is it? She breaks down crying and says to me "i know you are busy, this might take a while."
I said " sweetie, i have time for you, don't ever think that because i always say i am busy does not mean i won't have time for you! I do have a busy schedule but do not hesitate to call me."
I never meant to eliminate my friends but i just don't have the time to hang out anymore and i felt really bad especially as she needed me!
Anyway, we out to the patio and sat down and she opened up... she had moved out of her home and was back with her mom! I was like what is going on and how manage?
Her husband was having a hard time dealing with the baby, she was having a hard time adjsuting with the baby and looked to her mom for help and this drove a rift between a couple who should be happy and excited about having a new baby!
That drove me to tears... she moved out of the house under two weeks and he moved out too and got himself an apartment already!
I felt helpless for her but i had to say something, i know married folk have problems but should the vows be that meaningless? ... she said, he told her in a heated arguement that he did not love her anymore and she moved out and was like if you want a divorce , i will give it to you! So i ask her, is that what you want? do you want you marriage to be over? You know people say things when they are angry ( but that was cruel on his part tho).She of course said no! I said you need to do whatever you have to do to save your marriage, look inside yourself and you know your faults and weaknesses! Work on them and talk to him, don't call him screaming( i know it's hard not to).
Do not give up easily, you guys have been married for 3 years... you have a beautiful daughter and you know y'all love each other... i said.
These things happen especially with a brand new addition to the family... I know that you do not want a divorce!
I think i saw a spark in her eyes and i know i helped her because we were no longer crying! It is gonna be a long road but i'll be here for you!
Te amo amiga y estoy aqui cuando te necesites que me ayudas!
We did keep in touch by text and phone though! I decided on my way from school yesterday to stop over and see her at her job before i went home and i am glad i did!
She was surprised to see me and happy at the same time... i could tell something was wrong so i asked her again how are you doing? She looks at me and said not so good! I was like what is it? She breaks down crying and says to me "i know you are busy, this might take a while."
I said " sweetie, i have time for you, don't ever think that because i always say i am busy does not mean i won't have time for you! I do have a busy schedule but do not hesitate to call me."
I never meant to eliminate my friends but i just don't have the time to hang out anymore and i felt really bad especially as she needed me!
Anyway, we out to the patio and sat down and she opened up... she had moved out of her home and was back with her mom! I was like what is going on and how manage?
Her husband was having a hard time dealing with the baby, she was having a hard time adjsuting with the baby and looked to her mom for help and this drove a rift between a couple who should be happy and excited about having a new baby!
That drove me to tears... she moved out of the house under two weeks and he moved out too and got himself an apartment already!
I felt helpless for her but i had to say something, i know married folk have problems but should the vows be that meaningless? ... she said, he told her in a heated arguement that he did not love her anymore and she moved out and was like if you want a divorce , i will give it to you! So i ask her, is that what you want? do you want you marriage to be over? You know people say things when they are angry ( but that was cruel on his part tho).She of course said no! I said you need to do whatever you have to do to save your marriage, look inside yourself and you know your faults and weaknesses! Work on them and talk to him, don't call him screaming( i know it's hard not to).
Do not give up easily, you guys have been married for 3 years... you have a beautiful daughter and you know y'all love each other... i said.
These things happen especially with a brand new addition to the family... I know that you do not want a divorce!
I think i saw a spark in her eyes and i know i helped her because we were no longer crying! It is gonna be a long road but i'll be here for you!
Te amo amiga y estoy aqui cuando te necesites que me ayudas!
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Oga i forgive you!
On my recent trip to naija, there was a lot of drama right from when i arrived and sure enuf, on my way back home i faced some wahala!
Lagos-Ibadan expressway was so chaotic, i thought i was watching a movie... My brothers-in law were late picking me up from the airport because they were stuck in traffic around prayer city... luckily my sister was there to meet us, thank God she did because she was not planning to do so! After spending about 1.5hrs in the humid and conjested baggage claim area of mma, i got my bags and was about to leave.... The immigration or something ppl at the final door had to check and see if the bag i had was really mine by looking at some sticker right, well, i had two 'cases and only one sticker... seeing that i was alread pissed off at the crappy welcome, i was not in the mood to argue with him, so i told him " look, i dont have it but you can look at my name on the one i have and verify it with my passport. they are one and the same" problem solved right nooooo!! He was like no protocol this, that, i need the sticker, blah blah blah ,my friend who i was with could tell i was going to blow a fuse, she kept pulling at my hand and giving me the "u better not do it look" lol!
So i took a deep breadth and in my calmest voice i said " i don't have it, what would you like me to do?" The guy asked me to give him a bottle of coke to drink... i was like i don't have change, i am a student... He tried to keep at it but i was not bulging and after about 5 mins he let me go!
Opening the door to go outside was like walking into a suana in winter get up! I was so hot and irritated and people were pushing, why they were i don't know. I look up and i can't recognize anyone, then i hear my name "sisinaija" i turn and there was my older sister, she looked an angel who had come to save me... we walked to my friend's car and i immediately changed into a tee shirt, cus i had on a sweater, it was freezing in NY!
Finally my ride showed up after about 30 mins, we got in to the car and drove off. The roads were clear, wind was blowing through my hair, i was happy and content.
Yepa, little did i know that it was all about to end.... About 15 mins from the airport we started to slow down and my brother in law groans and turns to me and my friend ( she decided to ride with me to Ib) and said " we are in trouble."
I asked what was up and he said that we were about to beleive them, cus i really did not believe that they had spent 4hrs trying to get to mma. The traffic as we say had no head or tail and ppl were just going crazy... My brother in law decided that the best thing was to go thru the side bushes and make our way, thats what they had to do on their way!
The one thing wrong about that plan was that all the bus drivers, cab drivers and molues were also doing the same thing... wind no longer blowing my hair, hot and humid but we had not seen anything yet! We hit the rugged terrain and i was thinking to myself, your new suv will get dirty bro! Yeah if only dirt was all we had to worry about... the drivers and conductors attacked us, they hit the car and were spitting at the car all because my brother in law would not allow them to keep getting in front of him! My friend and i were shell shocked and all we could do was stare at the action and pray in our minds for God to please protect us! Abi after flying all the way without mishap, na road wahala we for suffer?hehehe!
My brother in law is an attorney,so he was like snap out of it and write down their plate numbers ( he was gonna get them in trouble)- don't know what he did eventually sha...
This traffic was so bad, we ended up on the opposite side of the road meaning the whole expressway was turned into a one way to ibadan, i could not believe it!! Finally mobile police came to the scene and started diverting traffic and within and hour we were able to cross back over and the road started clearing out!
I left the airport around 10am and got to ibadan around 230pm... the cause of the go-slow- as we call it(lol) was an accident that was blocking all lanes and then because of that the opposite direction was also affected! Wow- what a welcome!!!
On our way back we left way early to avoid any wahala and i ended up staying at the airpot for 3hrs before i could even check in for my flight! NO complaining there!
We had bought a lot of food stuffs to bring back with us to the US; a carton of indomie, maggi chicken, kari, egusi,ogbono, pepper, stock fish, and my favorite kilishi ( steak that has been spiced up and preseved-like suya but more delicious).
I mean, i had almost 3000naira worth of kilishi with me, a pregnant friend was craving it... and other ppl wanted it too!
On getting back to the land of the free, home of the brave- the question facing me was to declare or not to declare my food! Truth won, so i declared everything on the form and when it was my turn to be searched... i proudly opened my 'cases.
The immigration officer looked the egusi, and other like produts and did not remove them.... i thot phew... ohno! i heard him say "wuts that".. and i proceeded to tell him what kilishi was and how i loved it.. he was like hmmn, not allowed in to the US.. eeeeeeeeeehhhhhhhnnnnnnn!!!
No way it is preserved and healthy plus i am gonna eat it myself and since this is the land of the free, i am free to eat my poison,right? I talked and sweettalked but he was like no its gotta be trashed... to add to my pain he would not let me touch it, i asked can i eat it here, then? ... he looked at me, pulled the trash can over and shoved it all in there! yeyeyeyeye!! devasted is not the word!
Next he pulled my maggi chicken and kari and my knorr chicken and indomie and said "the US is trying to prevent the bird flu from coming in so anything with chicken in its ingredients gotta go! I was in shock... bb but these things are all sold in stores here for 50times the cost and you tell me i cannot bring them in? His response, take it up at washington!
I could not bring myself to blog about it, because i felt a personal sense of loss and hurt!! :-(
I was talking to a friend yesterday and somehow talked about grudges and our dislike for them and then i realised after talking with my friend with whom i flew, i needed to let go of the hurt and forgive the immigation officer.
So- sharply dresses immigration officer with a middle eastern background at jfk, i sisinaiaj forgive you!
Lagos-Ibadan expressway was so chaotic, i thought i was watching a movie... My brothers-in law were late picking me up from the airport because they were stuck in traffic around prayer city... luckily my sister was there to meet us, thank God she did because she was not planning to do so! After spending about 1.5hrs in the humid and conjested baggage claim area of mma, i got my bags and was about to leave.... The immigration or something ppl at the final door had to check and see if the bag i had was really mine by looking at some sticker right, well, i had two 'cases and only one sticker... seeing that i was alread pissed off at the crappy welcome, i was not in the mood to argue with him, so i told him " look, i dont have it but you can look at my name on the one i have and verify it with my passport. they are one and the same" problem solved right nooooo!! He was like no protocol this, that, i need the sticker, blah blah blah ,my friend who i was with could tell i was going to blow a fuse, she kept pulling at my hand and giving me the "u better not do it look" lol!
So i took a deep breadth and in my calmest voice i said " i don't have it, what would you like me to do?" The guy asked me to give him a bottle of coke to drink... i was like i don't have change, i am a student... He tried to keep at it but i was not bulging and after about 5 mins he let me go!
Opening the door to go outside was like walking into a suana in winter get up! I was so hot and irritated and people were pushing, why they were i don't know. I look up and i can't recognize anyone, then i hear my name "sisinaija" i turn and there was my older sister, she looked an angel who had come to save me... we walked to my friend's car and i immediately changed into a tee shirt, cus i had on a sweater, it was freezing in NY!
Finally my ride showed up after about 30 mins, we got in to the car and drove off. The roads were clear, wind was blowing through my hair, i was happy and content.
Yepa, little did i know that it was all about to end.... About 15 mins from the airport we started to slow down and my brother in law groans and turns to me and my friend ( she decided to ride with me to Ib) and said " we are in trouble."
I asked what was up and he said that we were about to beleive them, cus i really did not believe that they had spent 4hrs trying to get to mma. The traffic as we say had no head or tail and ppl were just going crazy... My brother in law decided that the best thing was to go thru the side bushes and make our way, thats what they had to do on their way!
The one thing wrong about that plan was that all the bus drivers, cab drivers and molues were also doing the same thing... wind no longer blowing my hair, hot and humid but we had not seen anything yet! We hit the rugged terrain and i was thinking to myself, your new suv will get dirty bro! Yeah if only dirt was all we had to worry about... the drivers and conductors attacked us, they hit the car and were spitting at the car all because my brother in law would not allow them to keep getting in front of him! My friend and i were shell shocked and all we could do was stare at the action and pray in our minds for God to please protect us! Abi after flying all the way without mishap, na road wahala we for suffer?hehehe!
My brother in law is an attorney,so he was like snap out of it and write down their plate numbers ( he was gonna get them in trouble)- don't know what he did eventually sha...
This traffic was so bad, we ended up on the opposite side of the road meaning the whole expressway was turned into a one way to ibadan, i could not believe it!! Finally mobile police came to the scene and started diverting traffic and within and hour we were able to cross back over and the road started clearing out!
I left the airport around 10am and got to ibadan around 230pm... the cause of the go-slow- as we call it(lol) was an accident that was blocking all lanes and then because of that the opposite direction was also affected! Wow- what a welcome!!!
On our way back we left way early to avoid any wahala and i ended up staying at the airpot for 3hrs before i could even check in for my flight! NO complaining there!
We had bought a lot of food stuffs to bring back with us to the US; a carton of indomie, maggi chicken, kari, egusi,ogbono, pepper, stock fish, and my favorite kilishi ( steak that has been spiced up and preseved-like suya but more delicious).
I mean, i had almost 3000naira worth of kilishi with me, a pregnant friend was craving it... and other ppl wanted it too!
On getting back to the land of the free, home of the brave- the question facing me was to declare or not to declare my food! Truth won, so i declared everything on the form and when it was my turn to be searched... i proudly opened my 'cases.
The immigration officer looked the egusi, and other like produts and did not remove them.... i thot phew... ohno! i heard him say "wuts that".. and i proceeded to tell him what kilishi was and how i loved it.. he was like hmmn, not allowed in to the US.. eeeeeeeeeehhhhhhhnnnnnnn!!!
No way it is preserved and healthy plus i am gonna eat it myself and since this is the land of the free, i am free to eat my poison,right? I talked and sweettalked but he was like no its gotta be trashed... to add to my pain he would not let me touch it, i asked can i eat it here, then? ... he looked at me, pulled the trash can over and shoved it all in there! yeyeyeyeye!! devasted is not the word!
Next he pulled my maggi chicken and kari and my knorr chicken and indomie and said "the US is trying to prevent the bird flu from coming in so anything with chicken in its ingredients gotta go! I was in shock... bb but these things are all sold in stores here for 50times the cost and you tell me i cannot bring them in? His response, take it up at washington!
I could not bring myself to blog about it, because i felt a personal sense of loss and hurt!! :-(
I was talking to a friend yesterday and somehow talked about grudges and our dislike for them and then i realised after talking with my friend with whom i flew, i needed to let go of the hurt and forgive the immigation officer.
So- sharply dresses immigration officer with a middle eastern background at jfk, i sisinaiaj forgive you!
Monday, March 26, 2007
Time has certainly gone by!
It's the 26th of the month, already, where has the month gone? If you ask me to tell you, i really can't say what i have done with my time this month.
It is spring break and i am off for three days from work this week... yippie right.. well not so much as the days off are wed,thur and friday!
I definitely do not want to stay here for the break but it's hard to go away during the week... Prolly will go up north of here. (lol)
I know finest city and all.. and i wanna leave this fine city when others are coming here for their sb!
I just want a change.. A good friend suggested that i go to Tijuana, Mexico... but i wanna do a fancier Mexico trip, so no i won't go to TJ.
Everything seems to be falling in place at school and work, well it's work..
I lost my voice yesterday and y'all know some freaks be calling us at night... well this one guy kept telling me my voice was the sexiest thing he had heard in a long time.. i could not help laughing at him, normally i would shut him down immediately but i was just tired and did not want to argue!
I had a fun time at church yesterday... i am in the choir right and i was stressing about the praise and worship.. on saturday during practice, i just could not focus and construct the flow... i gave up after a while and all night at work, i kept worrying how the worship would go!
Come sunday morning, i got back from work and i had to make a pot of fried rice for a baby shower.. remember i have not slept! Well i had forgotten to get liver and carrots and i needed some foil pans for the chicken and rice...
So i got to the store and they were closed, i think because i was doing things out of normal, i was a lot slower in my mind, i drove around in circles and went to four stores without getting what i needed...lol
Finally i was back where i started for the third time and it occured to me to go to smart and final, they had everything i needed and i could have just gone there in the first place but i was not thinking!lol!
So the fried rice turned out fabulous, the worship was excellent, the baby shower was great except that i crashed, fell asleep and missed half of the party, by the time i woke up my voice was gone!
It was fun night!
It is spring break and i am off for three days from work this week... yippie right.. well not so much as the days off are wed,thur and friday!
I definitely do not want to stay here for the break but it's hard to go away during the week... Prolly will go up north of here. (lol)
I know finest city and all.. and i wanna leave this fine city when others are coming here for their sb!
I just want a change.. A good friend suggested that i go to Tijuana, Mexico... but i wanna do a fancier Mexico trip, so no i won't go to TJ.
Everything seems to be falling in place at school and work, well it's work..
I lost my voice yesterday and y'all know some freaks be calling us at night... well this one guy kept telling me my voice was the sexiest thing he had heard in a long time.. i could not help laughing at him, normally i would shut him down immediately but i was just tired and did not want to argue!
I had a fun time at church yesterday... i am in the choir right and i was stressing about the praise and worship.. on saturday during practice, i just could not focus and construct the flow... i gave up after a while and all night at work, i kept worrying how the worship would go!
Come sunday morning, i got back from work and i had to make a pot of fried rice for a baby shower.. remember i have not slept! Well i had forgotten to get liver and carrots and i needed some foil pans for the chicken and rice...
So i got to the store and they were closed, i think because i was doing things out of normal, i was a lot slower in my mind, i drove around in circles and went to four stores without getting what i needed...lol
Finally i was back where i started for the third time and it occured to me to go to smart and final, they had everything i needed and i could have just gone there in the first place but i was not thinking!lol!
So the fried rice turned out fabulous, the worship was excellent, the baby shower was great except that i crashed, fell asleep and missed half of the party, by the time i woke up my voice was gone!
It was fun night!
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
I'm hiding from my hairdresser Part 2
I am sorry i have not finished this story but i was going through some things and i just need to laugh and get cheered up so what better way than to do that than updating my blogi!
Ok, so i left off at where Madam S finally got me to her house amidst all odds .. lol. She partitioned off a portion of her garage and turned it into a small cozy salon, but to get there you had to go through her living room which i quote directly as she said it " i don't know where you shoes have been so please take them off before entering my living room and put this slip -in on." Now you remember this was supposed to be a consult but apparently the reason she was spewing flames out of her ear was because the person who was supposed to be there cancelled their appointment and i was thinking, why are you taking your frustration out on me? You know common sense should have told me to run for my life, but i was somehow frozen (mumu alert!!) and i told her i would not mind doing my hair.... So she looked my hair over and then brought out a card and asked me to fill it out while she gave me her rules and regulations :
1. Do not come late
2. Do not bring any food or drinks to this place
3. Bring only cash - i was already guilt on this one: i don't carry cash!
4. Don't drive with the window down: it breaks your hair
5.Do not go swimming without hair protection
6.If you make an appointment for friday or saturday, don't bother calling to cancel, you will have to pay it anyway!
7. Do not use any other hair products except the ones i recommend.
.... By the time she was done, i was like "i don die ooo"...
Now ladies, i didn't know there was a proper way to sit in the chair at the hairdressers ooooo ! I was about to be schooled... Sitting in the chair, the cloth she put aound my neck half choking me, with the fear of man in my eyes, we were on our way..... She did not turn my neck this way or that like i thought she would, she wanted me to do it myself ??? she would say " can you not feel the direction i am pulling, and when i go in that direction she would yell and snap... " you are breaking my back, you are stressing me, you are the worst person to ever sit in this chair, you don't know how to position yourself, why can't you follow simple instructions" All this while i am seriously trying to do as she said but men, i was over powered, i was no match for her, so i just sat there and let her do her thing without a word!! I know mumu right?
On getting to the wash basin, which was located in her laundry room, that was the icing on the cake as in after pushing my behind far back into the chair like she said, i had to hold my head up for her and not push it back and not struggle with her, she just kept whinning.... well if she had space around the basin, she would be more comfortable i thought to myself!!
Then the flattening process, i think she burns people on purpose because i know there is a way for you to flat iron someone's hair without burning them, i mean my head kept zinging!! She blamed it on me of course and said i did not put my head right, i mean after you yap about something for a while and you don't get thru, just stop and adjust my head, but gently oo!! Lol
So we were done, my hair looked fabulous, it moved on its own and it was gorgeous.... But remember, i did not bring cash, so i got another lecture about that as well, but this time, i told her you know it was supposed to be a consult so don't blame for not bringing cash...
I went to an atm, got the cash, paid her and left....
I will write a couple more parts of this story later about people i referred and how they fared and more stuff on Madam S.... This was sisinaija reporting on true events!!! Lol
Ok, so i left off at where Madam S finally got me to her house amidst all odds .. lol. She partitioned off a portion of her garage and turned it into a small cozy salon, but to get there you had to go through her living room which i quote directly as she said it " i don't know where you shoes have been so please take them off before entering my living room and put this slip -in on." Now you remember this was supposed to be a consult but apparently the reason she was spewing flames out of her ear was because the person who was supposed to be there cancelled their appointment and i was thinking, why are you taking your frustration out on me? You know common sense should have told me to run for my life, but i was somehow frozen (mumu alert!!) and i told her i would not mind doing my hair.... So she looked my hair over and then brought out a card and asked me to fill it out while she gave me her rules and regulations :
1. Do not come late
2. Do not bring any food or drinks to this place
3. Bring only cash - i was already guilt on this one: i don't carry cash!
4. Don't drive with the window down: it breaks your hair
5.Do not go swimming without hair protection
6.If you make an appointment for friday or saturday, don't bother calling to cancel, you will have to pay it anyway!
7. Do not use any other hair products except the ones i recommend.
.... By the time she was done, i was like "i don die ooo"...
Now ladies, i didn't know there was a proper way to sit in the chair at the hairdressers ooooo ! I was about to be schooled... Sitting in the chair, the cloth she put aound my neck half choking me, with the fear of man in my eyes, we were on our way..... She did not turn my neck this way or that like i thought she would, she wanted me to do it myself ??? she would say " can you not feel the direction i am pulling, and when i go in that direction she would yell and snap... " you are breaking my back, you are stressing me, you are the worst person to ever sit in this chair, you don't know how to position yourself, why can't you follow simple instructions" All this while i am seriously trying to do as she said but men, i was over powered, i was no match for her, so i just sat there and let her do her thing without a word!! I know mumu right?
On getting to the wash basin, which was located in her laundry room, that was the icing on the cake as in after pushing my behind far back into the chair like she said, i had to hold my head up for her and not push it back and not struggle with her, she just kept whinning.... well if she had space around the basin, she would be more comfortable i thought to myself!!
Then the flattening process, i think she burns people on purpose because i know there is a way for you to flat iron someone's hair without burning them, i mean my head kept zinging!! She blamed it on me of course and said i did not put my head right, i mean after you yap about something for a while and you don't get thru, just stop and adjust my head, but gently oo!! Lol
So we were done, my hair looked fabulous, it moved on its own and it was gorgeous.... But remember, i did not bring cash, so i got another lecture about that as well, but this time, i told her you know it was supposed to be a consult so don't blame for not bringing cash...
I went to an atm, got the cash, paid her and left....
I will write a couple more parts of this story later about people i referred and how they fared and more stuff on Madam S.... This was sisinaija reporting on true events!!! Lol
Saturday, March 3, 2007
I'm hiding from my hair dresser!!
Happy March i have been so serious lately so i just wanted to lighten up a bit and laugh!!!
Ok, its a new month and i am thankful that i am here and for HIS blessings! You know i was in naija over the christmas break right and i so badly wanted to get tiny,tiny twisties done without breaking my bank so what better place than naija right? But for some reason i could not get myself to go to the hairdresser in IB. There were so many places, so i can't say there was not the opportunity, i can't say i was busy, hello i was on vaca right?
My older and younger sisters were like, lets go get your hair braided but i would make something up about why i could not make it. Slowly but surely the 18 day trip wound down to a saturday evening and i looked at myself thinking all my friends are gonna eat me alive when i get back to the states with my hair unbraided, because i had been bragging about it!! Heheeeee
Luckily for me, i went to naija with my friend J and we were supposed to stop over in NY, so i was like,J would hook me up with something!!
On coming back to the states, i finally told myself the truth about why i could not get my hair braided, and please don't take this unseriously because it is true.... I Sisinaija am afraid of my jamaican hairdresser!!!
There i said it. Now you wonder why i am afraid of her, well i will take you back to how it all started!!
I had this friend E in the navy who always sported fabulous hair and i asked her who it was she told me Madam S. I was like wow, that is fine! But i did not get converted.
My sis also in the navy, got a hairdresser's number from her friend and got her hair done and i was like wow... this is darn good, i mean her hair was silky and soft like oyinbo hair!! fo real! I asked for the gist and how much and the name and she said Madam S and i was like hmmmn, i don't know ooooooo
She was like go try her and see if you won't love your hair, well i did last year july. Now Madam S is a tough lady, retired military and all and i had heard she was hard core, but i was thinking "i am paying money for my hair, so she needs to be nice to me," right? I was wrong!
I called her up and asked for an appointment and she was like she needs to consult first.... i was like it's hair, but no, she wanted to know how badly i had been damaging my hair and what i would take for her to fix it.. Ok i obliged and took time just to go and have her look at my hair.... She gave me directions on how to get there and the directions got me lost, and late. I ended up calling this woman and asking her to just guide me there cuz i did not wanna waste anymore gas, this woman starts yelling at me, " i am busy, i don't like it when people show up late, it messes with my time, i don't need you, you need me" etc Hehehee Egbami ejjjjjjjjjooo!! This is not my mom ooooooo, this is a woman that i will pay money to! I could not believe my ears! Trust sisinaija to not take it lying down, i flipped on her and told her she could either stop screaming at me and guide me or i could just turn around and go back home and hang up on her... She calmed a little and came outside.. like ohh she had to drag herself out of a cave just to get there...
By this time, i had driven past her house like 10 times because she had kept saying small alleyway and i was looking for one "koro" that could not fit a car... Well, she goofed there cuz it was a back street that can comfortably fit two cars... Ahhhh ahhh!
I cannot finish this right now, i have to go to class but i cannot keep saving it, it's already the 7th!
I'll finish it later!
Ok, its a new month and i am thankful that i am here and for HIS blessings! You know i was in naija over the christmas break right and i so badly wanted to get tiny,tiny twisties done without breaking my bank so what better place than naija right? But for some reason i could not get myself to go to the hairdresser in IB. There were so many places, so i can't say there was not the opportunity, i can't say i was busy, hello i was on vaca right?
My older and younger sisters were like, lets go get your hair braided but i would make something up about why i could not make it. Slowly but surely the 18 day trip wound down to a saturday evening and i looked at myself thinking all my friends are gonna eat me alive when i get back to the states with my hair unbraided, because i had been bragging about it!! Heheeeee
Luckily for me, i went to naija with my friend J and we were supposed to stop over in NY, so i was like,J would hook me up with something!!
On coming back to the states, i finally told myself the truth about why i could not get my hair braided, and please don't take this unseriously because it is true.... I Sisinaija am afraid of my jamaican hairdresser!!!
There i said it. Now you wonder why i am afraid of her, well i will take you back to how it all started!!
I had this friend E in the navy who always sported fabulous hair and i asked her who it was she told me Madam S. I was like wow, that is fine! But i did not get converted.
My sis also in the navy, got a hairdresser's number from her friend and got her hair done and i was like wow... this is darn good, i mean her hair was silky and soft like oyinbo hair!! fo real! I asked for the gist and how much and the name and she said Madam S and i was like hmmmn, i don't know ooooooo
She was like go try her and see if you won't love your hair, well i did last year july. Now Madam S is a tough lady, retired military and all and i had heard she was hard core, but i was thinking "i am paying money for my hair, so she needs to be nice to me," right? I was wrong!
I called her up and asked for an appointment and she was like she needs to consult first.... i was like it's hair, but no, she wanted to know how badly i had been damaging my hair and what i would take for her to fix it.. Ok i obliged and took time just to go and have her look at my hair.... She gave me directions on how to get there and the directions got me lost, and late. I ended up calling this woman and asking her to just guide me there cuz i did not wanna waste anymore gas, this woman starts yelling at me, " i am busy, i don't like it when people show up late, it messes with my time, i don't need you, you need me" etc Hehehee Egbami ejjjjjjjjjooo!! This is not my mom ooooooo, this is a woman that i will pay money to! I could not believe my ears! Trust sisinaija to not take it lying down, i flipped on her and told her she could either stop screaming at me and guide me or i could just turn around and go back home and hang up on her... She calmed a little and came outside.. like ohh she had to drag herself out of a cave just to get there...
By this time, i had driven past her house like 10 times because she had kept saying small alleyway and i was looking for one "koro" that could not fit a car... Well, she goofed there cuz it was a back street that can comfortably fit two cars... Ahhhh ahhh!
I cannot finish this right now, i have to go to class but i cannot keep saving it, it's already the 7th!
I'll finish it later!
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Honestly honest
I was watching a recorded episode of "Girlfriends" on tv yesterday and that was so powerful, i had to write about it. Here let me set the scene for you!
Joan and her boyfriend (Aaron) decided to tell each other about their past relationships and be honest about their exes.... I thought to myself, next level baby! Well the wahala of this is that what Joan did not know was a guy she had once played nookie with who was married (keith) just happened to be Aaron's friend.
Ok, so once introduced Joan and Keith pretended not to know each other, but then Keith's wifey invites them over for dinner! I'm thinking Gbese!!!!
Joan talks it over with her girlfriends and decides to shove this one back in the closet and not tell Aaron. She was gonna sit there and act like nothing happened but you know she couldn't....
As they drive there, she breaks down and confesses to her sins.... Ahhh you should have seen Aaron's face, all i kept thinking was it's over, O ti paa danu.... You don kill am!! But to my surprise, he says to her," we are not breaking up and tells her the three words she had longed to hear from him all this while.... " I don't think you are a bad person, infact one of the most honest people i know and that is why i love you"!!
I mean, i cried along with her, sitting there on my couch wishing that in my last relationship my ex, he had just had the guts to be honest with me!!
It would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain.... Why can't people just get the fact that nothing is hidden under the sun and you cannot hide for long.
I hate liars and when you lie to the one you claim to love, it is like peircing a knife through their heart. Finding out that you have been played hurrrrts like hell.
My ex thought it was ok to lie about the minutest thing and for someone as gullible as i was, i thought i was in love and trust.
Had Joan not told Aaron the truth, once he found out, because YOU KNOW HE WOULD HAVE, she would have been screwed.
I have serious trust issues right now and i know i need to let it go ... wooossssssssssaaaa!! Am trying.
I have let him know i forgive him and i hold nothing against him anymore but i still need to write out how i feel about honesty.
Really, if you plan on not being honest with someone you love, then forget it because everyone involved will be hurt on some degree cuz of your LIES. It might be hard but you will feel so much lighter the minute you let go of the bags of lies you are carrying around.
Joan and her boyfriend (Aaron) decided to tell each other about their past relationships and be honest about their exes.... I thought to myself, next level baby! Well the wahala of this is that what Joan did not know was a guy she had once played nookie with who was married (keith) just happened to be Aaron's friend.
Ok, so once introduced Joan and Keith pretended not to know each other, but then Keith's wifey invites them over for dinner! I'm thinking Gbese!!!!
Joan talks it over with her girlfriends and decides to shove this one back in the closet and not tell Aaron. She was gonna sit there and act like nothing happened but you know she couldn't....
As they drive there, she breaks down and confesses to her sins.... Ahhh you should have seen Aaron's face, all i kept thinking was it's over, O ti paa danu.... You don kill am!! But to my surprise, he says to her," we are not breaking up and tells her the three words she had longed to hear from him all this while.... " I don't think you are a bad person, infact one of the most honest people i know and that is why i love you"!!
I mean, i cried along with her, sitting there on my couch wishing that in my last relationship my ex, he had just had the guts to be honest with me!!
It would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain.... Why can't people just get the fact that nothing is hidden under the sun and you cannot hide for long.
I hate liars and when you lie to the one you claim to love, it is like peircing a knife through their heart. Finding out that you have been played hurrrrts like hell.
My ex thought it was ok to lie about the minutest thing and for someone as gullible as i was, i thought i was in love and trust.
Had Joan not told Aaron the truth, once he found out, because YOU KNOW HE WOULD HAVE, she would have been screwed.
I have serious trust issues right now and i know i need to let it go ... wooossssssssssaaaa!! Am trying.
I have let him know i forgive him and i hold nothing against him anymore but i still need to write out how i feel about honesty.
Really, if you plan on not being honest with someone you love, then forget it because everyone involved will be hurt on some degree cuz of your LIES. It might be hard but you will feel so much lighter the minute you let go of the bags of lies you are carrying around.
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
Late, late and crazy nights!!
So i work at night because of my school schedule. The hours are tough cuz our bodies are programmed sleep at night, and i love my job but na men, it is hard to stay awake sometimes!
A couple of weeks ago i was really tired and did not want to go to work but i had to, well i went in with lots of water, see i try not to drink coffee... maybe i should huh!
Everything was gravy till around 3a.m. I started to doze off and a call came thru from a guy who wanted to know how high my heels were, and i was thinking "what does this have to do with auto insurance ", we have rules so i was like - "i am not wearing heels sir"... then he further asks me- what size do you normally wear and still giving 'great customer service' i said - Normally 3-4" high, but in order to keep assisting you i need your policy number. " Well i don't have a policy but i was just trying to know what size you wear so as to determine how freaky you are in bed.
Ah ah enyin eyan egbami oo, so i said sir i can no longer continue this conversation with you, if there is nothing else i can help you with, have a great night, click.
I thought the freakishness of call was weird, so i told my coworkers and we all laughed about it.
Half an hour later, i get another call and i do my usual schpeel of -thanks for calling, can i have your policy number to assist you, lo and behold this guy comes on and says " hold on a minute i am getting off" Ok , like i said it's late so i did not catch on quick, like a mumu i stayed on the line and the next thing i hear is this guy making some sounds in my ear, (eeeewwwwhhh).
I didn't care about the rules i just disconnected the call kia kia, what disgusting people who have nothing better to do than to call an insurance company and act a fool!!
My supe was like don't worry girl, that happens sometimes but don't pay them no mind.... all the while i was thinking to myself " i no mind am, i just no fit fo for those guys the way i suppose, if na person wey call my house dey yarn rubbish, he for gba se kaki no be leather!!
I have no problem with freaks as long as they keeps their distance from me, jeez.... But you know i was awake and alert from then on...
A couple of weeks ago i was really tired and did not want to go to work but i had to, well i went in with lots of water, see i try not to drink coffee... maybe i should huh!
Everything was gravy till around 3a.m. I started to doze off and a call came thru from a guy who wanted to know how high my heels were, and i was thinking "what does this have to do with auto insurance ", we have rules so i was like - "i am not wearing heels sir"... then he further asks me- what size do you normally wear and still giving 'great customer service' i said - Normally 3-4" high, but in order to keep assisting you i need your policy number. " Well i don't have a policy but i was just trying to know what size you wear so as to determine how freaky you are in bed.
Ah ah enyin eyan egbami oo, so i said sir i can no longer continue this conversation with you, if there is nothing else i can help you with, have a great night, click.
I thought the freakishness of call was weird, so i told my coworkers and we all laughed about it.
Half an hour later, i get another call and i do my usual schpeel of -thanks for calling, can i have your policy number to assist you, lo and behold this guy comes on and says " hold on a minute i am getting off" Ok , like i said it's late so i did not catch on quick, like a mumu i stayed on the line and the next thing i hear is this guy making some sounds in my ear, (eeeewwwwhhh).
I didn't care about the rules i just disconnected the call kia kia, what disgusting people who have nothing better to do than to call an insurance company and act a fool!!
My supe was like don't worry girl, that happens sometimes but don't pay them no mind.... all the while i was thinking to myself " i no mind am, i just no fit fo for those guys the way i suppose, if na person wey call my house dey yarn rubbish, he for gba se kaki no be leather!!
I have no problem with freaks as long as they keeps their distance from me, jeez.... But you know i was awake and alert from then on...
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Not sure what to call this one!!
You know when you end a relationship that meant something and you hurt for a long time and you hope the other person hurts as bad too!! I know thats wrong in every way but i have felt that way for a while....
Today, i found out that i what i had thought all along was wrong.... My crazy ex and his ex (before me), apparently got together a couple of months after we broke up right under my nose.... Uhh!!! How could he?
I am so mad right now, i can hardly put it into words, i know i need some kind of therapy for feeling like this but darnit, i am hurt and it reopens old wounds that i have been trying to heal for months.
True, i broke off the relationship but i was drowning in the web of craziness that was my ex and his family, once it was over i could breathe again.... It has been hard for me to open up about all the pain i feel inside....
I want to heal, i want to love again but i just feel stuck in a rut and i am trying my hardest to let go and i will get there... Amen!
I have been rejecting guys who want to go on dates cuz i have been too scared to open myself to the thought of such pain again! But then i can't find my prince if i don't open up! Who knows, maybe in all my silliness, i have lost him? I sure hope not!
I really want to be happy, i want to be love and feel loved ; i know that in order to love again i need to open myself to the possibililty of hurt again... i mean i must have gone nuts i think, i had run out of excuses... i sunk to a new low today, i got asked out and i flat out lied through my teeth, i mean, i couldn't even keep my story straight, i knew i was not believable.
But watching Oprah today coupled with scolding from friends, i have decided; this is the start of a new me, no more dwelling in the hurt of the past, instead i look forward to freeing myself first from my wahala... then who knows... i might have a love story to tell you guys someday!!
Phew!, that was deep.... I think i will call this blogi, "Letting Go"
Today, i found out that i what i had thought all along was wrong.... My crazy ex and his ex (before me), apparently got together a couple of months after we broke up right under my nose.... Uhh!!! How could he?
I am so mad right now, i can hardly put it into words, i know i need some kind of therapy for feeling like this but darnit, i am hurt and it reopens old wounds that i have been trying to heal for months.
True, i broke off the relationship but i was drowning in the web of craziness that was my ex and his family, once it was over i could breathe again.... It has been hard for me to open up about all the pain i feel inside....
I want to heal, i want to love again but i just feel stuck in a rut and i am trying my hardest to let go and i will get there... Amen!
I have been rejecting guys who want to go on dates cuz i have been too scared to open myself to the thought of such pain again! But then i can't find my prince if i don't open up! Who knows, maybe in all my silliness, i have lost him? I sure hope not!
I really want to be happy, i want to be love and feel loved ; i know that in order to love again i need to open myself to the possibililty of hurt again... i mean i must have gone nuts i think, i had run out of excuses... i sunk to a new low today, i got asked out and i flat out lied through my teeth, i mean, i couldn't even keep my story straight, i knew i was not believable.
But watching Oprah today coupled with scolding from friends, i have decided; this is the start of a new me, no more dwelling in the hurt of the past, instead i look forward to freeing myself first from my wahala... then who knows... i might have a love story to tell you guys someday!!
Phew!, that was deep.... I think i will call this blogi, "Letting Go"
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
My Valentine's days over the years...
My very first Val's day that i remember having an expectation for was in '99... i was expecting a card, i mean it was simple back then because i was still very young; it was all baby love and nothing more... but i got dumped that day!! My then boyfriend, dumped me right after our extra lesson class... for all my naijans y'all remember those lessons where we prepared for WAEC huh? and it was a mixture of students from all over town, well he attended a different school and when i met him i was all gaga cuz i love tall guys and brotha is tall ... anyhow sha, he dumped me for my friend from another school as well!
I will tell you, that was a while ago but knowing how many Val's days have come and gone since then, that was the most memorable and not because i got dumped but because that was all the action i got from a Feb 14 ever.... Down memory lane we go....
In 2000, i was still hurting from the year before so i was single and studying for my WAEC so i was not interested at all in anything but my books... you can say i was an iwe!
In 2001, i moved to Ib from Kano so i had not found any guy i liked so again i was alone for Feb 14.
In 2002, i had just moved to Cali and was just getting to know everyone and was again single.
Let's just say in 2003, i was still scoping the market or shall i be politically correct and say the market was still scoping me!
Yippie, in 2004 i had a beau and he spoke french which i heard was the language of love, so, for Val's day i was like yeah this is my year!!! Well my expectations were too high cuz we had only been dating for 2 months.... Well, i got a card and a rose but dang it i wanted more for my first real Val's day and that triggered a chain reaction in the relationship that ultimately led to its end.
In 2005, i was single for Val's day, and maybe i deserved it for how i handled the previous year , well, i don't think cupid's style is revenge.
In 2006, my man was not around for Val's day, darn navy for sending him on deployment, but i did get a bouquet of roses.... Well with your man gone for almost 7 months, flowers did not do the trick, i was pretty much alone again and i hated it.
This year, well you guessed it, i am single but i have no expectations for Val's day anymore.... Someone said to me yesterday, if you really care about someone, you should make them feel special all year round and it should not matter that the whole world has set one day aside to show love... i gather your gist and in my case, this year i wanna spend it on me, i am gonna have a good day of self loving.... No you freaks, i will not be pleasuring myself.
I just wanna say that it's all right to be single on Val's day... my sis thinks it's the worst thing that can happen to me. If you are not single and your expectations are not met, then look inside you, cuz maybe you are expecting validation that will never come from roses, dinner and a card or whatever else your fantasy is.
Appreciate who you have in your life ladies, if your man doesn't beat you, yell at you, cheat or put you down; if he treats you right and is all you want him to be, and you say you're in love, please treat him right, there are few good guys left and i go appreciate if i find good one when i ready to settle down. If you don't want him just as he is, then get out of the relationship and leave him unscathed.
I will tell you, that was a while ago but knowing how many Val's days have come and gone since then, that was the most memorable and not because i got dumped but because that was all the action i got from a Feb 14 ever.... Down memory lane we go....
In 2000, i was still hurting from the year before so i was single and studying for my WAEC so i was not interested at all in anything but my books... you can say i was an iwe!
In 2001, i moved to Ib from Kano so i had not found any guy i liked so again i was alone for Feb 14.
In 2002, i had just moved to Cali and was just getting to know everyone and was again single.
Let's just say in 2003, i was still scoping the market or shall i be politically correct and say the market was still scoping me!
Yippie, in 2004 i had a beau and he spoke french which i heard was the language of love, so, for Val's day i was like yeah this is my year!!! Well my expectations were too high cuz we had only been dating for 2 months.... Well, i got a card and a rose but dang it i wanted more for my first real Val's day and that triggered a chain reaction in the relationship that ultimately led to its end.
In 2005, i was single for Val's day, and maybe i deserved it for how i handled the previous year , well, i don't think cupid's style is revenge.
In 2006, my man was not around for Val's day, darn navy for sending him on deployment, but i did get a bouquet of roses.... Well with your man gone for almost 7 months, flowers did not do the trick, i was pretty much alone again and i hated it.
This year, well you guessed it, i am single but i have no expectations for Val's day anymore.... Someone said to me yesterday, if you really care about someone, you should make them feel special all year round and it should not matter that the whole world has set one day aside to show love... i gather your gist and in my case, this year i wanna spend it on me, i am gonna have a good day of self loving.... No you freaks, i will not be pleasuring myself.
I just wanna say that it's all right to be single on Val's day... my sis thinks it's the worst thing that can happen to me. If you are not single and your expectations are not met, then look inside you, cuz maybe you are expecting validation that will never come from roses, dinner and a card or whatever else your fantasy is.
Appreciate who you have in your life ladies, if your man doesn't beat you, yell at you, cheat or put you down; if he treats you right and is all you want him to be, and you say you're in love, please treat him right, there are few good guys left and i go appreciate if i find good one when i ready to settle down. If you don't want him just as he is, then get out of the relationship and leave him unscathed.
Thursday, February 8, 2007
ohmagosh...shut up!!
Y'all know i am in school right? Well, i had this teacher who was so boring he made Ryan Seacrest sound interesting, so i dropped the class... i hoped i would get a different teacher next time i took the class ...we'll as you can tell that did not work out because i'm here and now i have no choice but to take the class if i wanna graduate on schedule.
I mean he just talks and talks about himself and things he had published and yada yada .... First couple of weeks this semester i actually thought he was interesting and engaging but after the add/drop period passed, he turned boring up a notch.
I am a good student but this guy makes me wanna wring my hair out and not come to class, i just wish i could say to him ohmagosh could you please shut up !!!
I look around the class and half are on their laptops, the other half is sending text messages and in between we have people asleep, and others doing their homework from other classes and me what am i doing, well you guessed it... blogging my frustrations out!!
I mean he just talks and talks about himself and things he had published and yada yada .... First couple of weeks this semester i actually thought he was interesting and engaging but after the add/drop period passed, he turned boring up a notch.
I am a good student but this guy makes me wanna wring my hair out and not come to class, i just wish i could say to him ohmagosh could you please shut up !!!
I look around the class and half are on their laptops, the other half is sending text messages and in between we have people asleep, and others doing their homework from other classes and me what am i doing, well you guessed it... blogging my frustrations out!!
Tuesday, February 6, 2007
Trying not to scream!
Have you ever just felt like 'blah'... I know once in a while i just feel like crap and today was one of those days. I just feel like not only did i wake up on the wrong side of the bed, i think i slept on the wrong side as well. I am a college student ok, jut trying to make it through this life. My younger sister lives with me and i will tell you sometimes she gets on my last nerves. I have a certain way of doing things, and i like them done a certain way as well, so imagine my surprise when after i had told her to pay the cable bill, i get a notice that my account is delinquent. I wanna yell at her but i cannot turn my neck to face her. I cannot throw a hissy fit but you guessed it, my neck hurts. So i am gonna just threaten to tell our parents she is trying to ruin my credit.
For all my naija folks living away from the 'padres', you know how it is trying to keep yourself right and avoid worrying the parents. I mean my credit is new cos i have not live here all my life, i don't think i need silly bills like $150 cable bills to ruin what i have been building.
I know, you are asking why don't i just pay it? Huh, well i am trying to teach her to be responsible, she has a job and should be able to handle simple things like paying a cable bill especially when all the charges are things she ordered.... am i right or am i right?
I will let you know what happens but i have a feeling you and i both know that i will end up paying it again as usual.
Ugggghhhh, now i gotta go to work, ouuch my neck hurts.
For all my naija folks living away from the 'padres', you know how it is trying to keep yourself right and avoid worrying the parents. I mean my credit is new cos i have not live here all my life, i don't think i need silly bills like $150 cable bills to ruin what i have been building.
I know, you are asking why don't i just pay it? Huh, well i am trying to teach her to be responsible, she has a job and should be able to handle simple things like paying a cable bill especially when all the charges are things she ordered.... am i right or am i right?
I will let you know what happens but i have a feeling you and i both know that i will end up paying it again as usual.
Ugggghhhh, now i gotta go to work, ouuch my neck hurts.
Friday, February 2, 2007
My Naija trip
There is so much i wanna say but don't know where to start.... Here ok.... It's like this....
I just back from Nigeria and i had fun but my goodness was it a drag or what? Living here you get used to a way of life and they way thing should be.... First off lemme suggest that you don't go too close to christmas time cos it's plain chaos. I was in a traffic jam from Lagos to ibadan and it took me 5 hours to get home.... Good old NEPA is not a factor anymore, everyone has a generator, i mean i think NEPA is the one selling the generators to people. Oh another thing.... what is with people having a million 'handests' cellphones as they call them. Even upon landing, this one guy whipped out three cells and made calls on each one.... Forgive me if i sound silly but what is the advantage of having three cells in 9ja? I would like to know.... I will fill you in on my experiences later....
I just back from Nigeria and i had fun but my goodness was it a drag or what? Living here you get used to a way of life and they way thing should be.... First off lemme suggest that you don't go too close to christmas time cos it's plain chaos. I was in a traffic jam from Lagos to ibadan and it took me 5 hours to get home.... Good old NEPA is not a factor anymore, everyone has a generator, i mean i think NEPA is the one selling the generators to people. Oh another thing.... what is with people having a million 'handests' cellphones as they call them. Even upon landing, this one guy whipped out three cells and made calls on each one.... Forgive me if i sound silly but what is the advantage of having three cells in 9ja? I would like to know.... I will fill you in on my experiences later....
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