Happy new month to you blogville folk! I had not seen a friend of mine for almost 5 months... not due to any rifts or anything... we just never could fix up a time... i had a new school schedule, i was in naija, i changed my work schedule, she had a baby and moved... the reasons are endless.
We did keep in touch by text and phone though! I decided on my way from school yesterday to stop over and see her at her job before i went home and i am glad i did!
She was surprised to see me and happy at the same time... i could tell something was wrong so i asked her again how are you doing? She looks at me and said not so good! I was like what is it? She breaks down crying and says to me "i know you are busy, this might take a while."
I said " sweetie, i have time for you, don't ever think that because i always say i am busy does not mean i won't have time for you! I do have a busy schedule but do not hesitate to call me."
I never meant to eliminate my friends but i just don't have the time to hang out anymore and i felt really bad especially as she needed me!
Anyway, we out to the patio and sat down and she opened up... she had moved out of her home and was back with her mom! I was like what is going on and how manage?
Her husband was having a hard time dealing with the baby, she was having a hard time adjsuting with the baby and looked to her mom for help and this drove a rift between a couple who should be happy and excited about having a new baby!
That drove me to tears... she moved out of the house under two weeks and he moved out too and got himself an apartment already!
I felt helpless for her but i had to say something, i know married folk have problems but should the vows be that meaningless? ... she said, he told her in a heated arguement that he did not love her anymore and she moved out and was like if you want a divorce , i will give it to you! So i ask her, is that what you want? do you want you marriage to be over? You know people say things when they are angry ( but that was cruel on his part tho).She of course said no! I said you need to do whatever you have to do to save your marriage, look inside yourself and you know your faults and weaknesses! Work on them and talk to him, don't call him screaming( i know it's hard not to).
Do not give up easily, you guys have been married for 3 years... you have a beautiful daughter and you know y'all love each other... i said.
These things happen especially with a brand new addition to the family... I know that you do not want a divorce!
I think i saw a spark in her eyes and i know i helped her because we were no longer crying! It is gonna be a long road but i'll be here for you!
Te amo amiga y estoy aqui cuando te necesites que me ayudas!
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HI dear, a nice blog you've gat here.
I advise you to visit other people's blogs and comment. By so dong, you'll get enough bloggers to be commenting on ya posts.
Do have a lovely Easter!
sisinaija abeg I like ur blog o!keep it up!
@ugo: thanks for the comment... will do my best!
@linda:ooohh thank you!
yeah i'm luving ur blog and plsss update
My dear, I really feel for your friend. I'll advise that you try to stay in touch with her. She'll need a lot of friends like you to support her and help her through this difficult time. I pray God will touch them both and restore joy and happiness into the hearts and home.
Best Friends 3 is finally out!!!
@ racquelle: thank you!
@ moments: I appreciate your comment and i 'll do my best to help her out! BF 3 out !! Halle!
Okay... I'm nicer this time and best friends grand finale is OUT!! :-)). catch you when you get there.
Aww thats so sad..eyah I feel for your friend ooo but all in all they should learn to deal with it because nobody said raising a family would be that easy, it takes time.
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